03 October 2010

"Build" Your Kids! ~ Education, Inspiration, Plus...

Thanks to Erika Wagner for spotting recent Dan & Noah's Single Dad Laughing post heartbreakingly titled You just broke your child. Congratulations...
"Dads. Stop breaking your children. Please. [... After repeatedly being slammed] the boy started to come towards his dad yet again. His dad immediately stepped out of the line, jammed his fingers into his son's collar bones until he winced in pain, and threatened him. "If you so much as make a sound or come off of that wall again, I promise you're going to get it when we get home." The boy again cowered against the wall. This time, he didn't move. He didn't make a sound. His beautiful face pointed down, locked to the floor and expressionless. He had been broken. And that's how his father wanted it. He didn't want to deal with him, and breaking him was the easiest way. And we wonder why so many of our kids grow up to be screwed up."
Painful stuff. Punch-lines include...
  • "a child's sense of value can revolve around what they see in your face"
  • "a child [can become] what you tell them they are"
  • "children will hinge their entire facet of trust on whether or not their dad plays with them and how involved he is when he plays with them"
  • "a child is crushed or becomes completely defiant when anger rules the roost"
  • "these precious souls that have been put into your care are unique and so very sensitive"
  • "your kids are going to make mistakes, and a lot of them"
Heartfelt post. Not an easy read, but worth it. Please build, don't break.

1 comment:

G-Fav said...

Thanks for posting this, Joost. It was a difficult and emotional read.